快樂其實很簡單 － 若水隨風
快樂是人們所追求的，人們總是認為只要得到金錢，權利，名聲等就可以快樂，殊不知只是離快樂越來越遠。孔子說：「知之者不如好之者，好之者不如樂之者」。其意思是「懂它的人不如愛好它的人，愛好它的人不如以它為樂的人」，我認為「了解自己的人不如愛自己的人，愛自己的人不如以身為自己而快樂的人」，要擁有真正的快樂，首先要了解自己，要愛自己，要以身為自己而快樂。
我想大多數人也像我自己一樣，自己總是不知道自己真正想要的是什麼，這就像量子的不確定性一樣。對某些事物如金錢或權力總是有一種渴求，但我認為這只是人類遺傳下來的天性，因為擁有金錢或權力的人比沒有金錢或權力的人更容易生存下去，這亦是所謂的適者生存。我認為這種渴求只是一種生存下去的本能，正如我們的手接觸到熱的物件時會立刻縮手，這只是人們的天性或本能，內在的意識，這並不算是真正想要的。
了解自己
距離自己最近的，陪伴自己最久的，卻是最陌生的。也許你會有所質詢，最不了解自己的人可能是自己，而最了解你的人可能是你的敵人，而你最大的敵人就是你自己。所以自己是最了解自己和最不了解自己的人。人總是用眼睛看世界，看到的只是外間的世界，卻看不到自己。有人可能會說，有些人總是照鏡子，難道他們不是看到自己嗎？是的，即使他們看到自己，卻只是看到外在的自己。
認識自己真的很難，沒有人可以說百分之百了解自己，但在了解自己之前，我們首先要有一種意識，那就是我不了解自己，如果不知道自己不了解自己，那怎麼可以去了解自己呢？
我知道大多數人都不了解自己，而我也發現我以前不了解自己，但是，大多數人就像以前的我一樣以為自己了解自己，那麼，我相信現在的我認為比前的我更了解自己，但事實上，我並不是真的了解自己。因此，我相信無論如何，人也不可能真正的了解自己，充其量只是嘗試或趨向於了解自己。
在嘗試了解自己之前，你要知道自己是三位一體的，根據精神分析學家家佛洛伊德（Sigmund Freud）的心理動力論（Structural model of the psyche），我其實可以分為「本我」（Id）、「自我」（Ego）、「超我」（Super-ego）。「本我」是潛意識形態下的思想，遵循享樂原則（Pleasure Principle）；「自我」是個人有意識的部分，由現實原則（Reality Principle）所支配；「超我」是人格結構中的管制者，由道德原則（Moral Principle）所支配。這三個「我」形成了我，這三種「我﹞」就像三原色一樣，透過不同比例的三原色可以組成不同的顏色，而我就是由不同比例的「本我」、「真我」與「超我」所組成的，而並比例亦不是固定的。因此了解自己其實就是了解三種「我」的比例。
那究竟要怎樣才能更加了解自己呢？我認為要更了解自己的方法有兩種：
其一 － 因果的推理：就是嘗試以自己的敵人這個身份去認識自己，去了解自己，因為這就是自己的敵人如何了解自己的方法。如果你想知道自己最重要的東西，不仿以敵人的身份來想，究竟讓自己失去什麼時會痛不欲生。有些人害怕失去金錢，有些人害怕失去自由，有些人害怕失去道德，而自己又害怕失去什麼呢？
其二 － 直覺的觀察：就是觀察自己內心的所有想法和心理變化，這只是主觀的結果，因且必須要不斷而長期的觀察，才可以得出合理的結果。
愛自己
愛別人前，首先要學會愛自己，一個連自己都不愛別人又怎會愛別人呢。但為什麼你會愛上某人呢？是因為她美麗嗎？也許她真的美麗，但愛上她是因為你接受了她。你愛上了她，因為在你眼中她是那麼完美，彷彿沒有任何缺點般。但事實是如此嗎？人總是不完美的，但有些人會說不完美才是最美。而那麼多人不愛自己，其原因就是他們不接受自己，他們認為自己是醜陋或低劣的，根本不值得別人去愛，在自我否定後，自己更不可能愛自己了。所以，愛自己先要接受自己的一切。
要以身為自己而快樂
你可能不了解自己，你可能不愛自己，但擁有快樂其實很簡單，以身為自己而快樂。無論我是怎樣，富貴或貧窮、聰明或愚昧，那都是無關重要的，學會放下，快樂就是那麼簡單，快樂本來就在你的身上，快樂是與生俱來的。
Happiness is actually very simple As if water with the wind
Happiness is the thing that everyone want to have, people always think that they will be happy if they have money, power, fame and etc, but the fact is that they are just getting away from happiness. Confucius said: "They who know the truth are not equal to those who love it, and they who love it are not equal to those who delight in it." And I think that they who understand themselves are not equal to those who love themselves; and they who love themselves are not equal to those who delight in being themselves.
I think most people just like me that I do not always know what I really want, it just like quantum with uncertainty. There is always a desire for certain thing such as money or power. I think that is something left due to Gene because mostly likely people who have more money or power will have higher probability to survive in the world than those who have less, which is so-called "survival of fittest". I think this desire is an instinct to survive, it is just like that our hands will be withdrawn when it touch something really hot, it is just a kind of human nature, instinct or inner consciousness, and that cannot be considered as what we want.
People always look at the world with the eyes to see just the outside of the world but cannot see themselves. Some might say that some people always look in the mirror, do they not see themselves? The answers is Yes, they can see themselves but just their outside.
Knowing yourself is really difficult. No people can say that one hundred percent know themselves. Before knowing yourself, we must first have a sense that I do not know myself. If you do not know that you do not know yourself, then how can you know yourself?
I think most people do not know themselves, and I have found that I did not know myself, but most people think they know themselves just like that I think I know myself in the past. Since I believe that I know myself better than that in the past, I just like other people that they think they know themselves, so actually I do not know myself. As a result, no one can truly know himself, we can only try to know ourselves.
Before trying to know yourself, you need to know that, according to Sigmund Freud's Structural model of the psyche, I can actually be divided into "Id", "Ego" and "Superego": "Id' is the thought of latent ideology which is ruled by Pleasure Principle; "Ego" is the conscious part of the individual which is ruled by Reality Principle; "Superego" is the personality structure of the regulator which is ruled by Moral Principle. I am formed by "Id", "Ego" and "Superego", it is similar to three primary colors, and different color can be formed by different proportions of three primary colors. And I am formed by different proportions of "Id", "Ego" and "Superego", those proportions may change with time, so knowing yourself is to know your proportions of "Id", "Ego" and "Superego".
How you can know yourself? There are two ways for you to know yourself.
1. Causal Reasoning:
You should imagine that you are your enemy who try to know yourself because that is the approach that your enemy can know you the best. For example, if you what to know what is s the most important thing. Remember you are your enemy, you need to think what you are afraid to lose to make you become unhappy and painful. Some people afraid to lose money, some people afraid to lose freedom and some people afraid to lose moral. What are you afraid to lose?
2. Intuitive observation:
You need to observer your inner thoughts and your psychological change, since it is subjective result, you need observer those things constantly and in long-term to make the result reasonable.
You need to learn how to love yourself before love other people. How can a person love other people if he cannot love himself? What is the reason to make you fall in love with someone, is that just because of her beauty? May she is really beautiful, but the true reason to love her is that you accept her. You love her because she is perfect in your view, there is no any bad thing related to her. Is it the truth? No one is perfect, it is said that imperfect is perfect. People who do not love themselves because they cannot accept themselves, they think they are ugly or poor that they do not deserve other people to love them. Since you reject yourself, it is impossible to make you love yourself. You need to accept yourself in order to love yourself.
I think most people just like me that I do not always know what I really want, it just like quantum with uncertainty. There is always a desire for certain thing such as money or power. I think that is something left due to Gene because mostly likely people who have more money or power will have higher probability to survive in the world than those who have less, which is so-called "survival of fittest". I think this desire is an instinct to survive, it is just like that our hands will be withdrawn when it touch something really hot, it is just a kind of human nature, instinct or inner consciousness, and that cannot be considered as what we want.
Knowing yourself
Person who is nearest to you and accompany longest with you is the most unfamiliar. Maybe you will have doubt, but actually the person who knows you the least is yourself while the person who knows you the best is your enemy.People always look at the world with the eyes to see just the outside of the world but cannot see themselves. Some might say that some people always look in the mirror, do they not see themselves? The answers is Yes, they can see themselves but just their outside.
Knowing yourself is really difficult. No people can say that one hundred percent know themselves. Before knowing yourself, we must first have a sense that I do not know myself. If you do not know that you do not know yourself, then how can you know yourself?
I think most people do not know themselves, and I have found that I did not know myself, but most people think they know themselves just like that I think I know myself in the past. Since I believe that I know myself better than that in the past, I just like other people that they think they know themselves, so actually I do not know myself. As a result, no one can truly know himself, we can only try to know ourselves.
Before trying to know yourself, you need to know that, according to Sigmund Freud's Structural model of the psyche, I can actually be divided into "Id", "Ego" and "Superego": "Id' is the thought of latent ideology which is ruled by Pleasure Principle; "Ego" is the conscious part of the individual which is ruled by Reality Principle; "Superego" is the personality structure of the regulator which is ruled by Moral Principle. I am formed by "Id", "Ego" and "Superego", it is similar to three primary colors, and different color can be formed by different proportions of three primary colors. And I am formed by different proportions of "Id", "Ego" and "Superego", those proportions may change with time, so knowing yourself is to know your proportions of "Id", "Ego" and "Superego".
How you can know yourself? There are two ways for you to know yourself.
1. Causal Reasoning:
You should imagine that you are your enemy who try to know yourself because that is the approach that your enemy can know you the best. For example, if you what to know what is s the most important thing. Remember you are your enemy, you need to think what you are afraid to lose to make you become unhappy and painful. Some people afraid to lose money, some people afraid to lose freedom and some people afraid to lose moral. What are you afraid to lose?
2. Intuitive observation:
You need to observer your inner thoughts and your psychological change, since it is subjective result, you need observer those things constantly and in long-term to make the result reasonable.
Love yourself
You need to learn how to love yourself before love other people. How can a person love other people if he cannot love himself? What is the reason to make you fall in love with someone, is that just because of her beauty? May she is really beautiful, but the true reason to love her is that you accept her. You love her because she is perfect in your view, there is no any bad thing related to her. Is it the truth? No one is perfect, it is said that imperfect is perfect. People who do not love themselves because they cannot accept themselves, they think they are ugly or poor that they do not deserve other people to love them. Since you reject yourself, it is impossible to make you love yourself. You need to accept yourself in order to love yourself.
Feel happy for being yourself
You may not know yourself, you may not love yourself, but you still can make yourself feel happy, just feel happy for being yourself. No matter who you are, rich or poor, wise or foolish, it is irrelevant, just let it be. Happiness is actually very simple, it already in your body and mind, you can use it anytime or anywhere if you want.
Let it be - The Beatles
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